Tomorrow, I get to use two skills together that I haven’t had to use together in a long time…my medical knowledge and my writing and editing ability. Tomorrow, those skills mean I have to revisit a day almost 2 years past. Tomorrow, I am helping my mother-in-law gather the final information she needs and proof reading what she wrote so she can file an official complaint regarding my father-in-law’s death.

See, he didn’t have to die. He had surgery for cancer and they got it all. It was such a clean removal that he wasn’t even going to need chemo or radiation. He had been given a clean bill of health and the doc expected him to live for years. But, two things happened that shouldn’t have happened. For two days, when he was stuck in a hospital bed, they forgot to put his *compression stockings on and, less than an hour before he died, his nurse insisted on giving him a shot of insulin despite his blood sugar being below 90 and despite the fact that both of them questioned it. When he died, he died so quickly. If I had to bet on it, I would almost guarantee he threw a clot…probably a pulmonary embolism. When that happens, the person is usually lost immediately. Because my MIL didn’t have an autopsy done, we can’t say without a doubt what caused him to die so suddenly and that very likely means this complaint won’t go anywhere. But, in my heart of hearts and in my medically oriented brain, I know it shouldn’t have happened. Sigifredo Cruz-Vega should still be here today.

Tomorrow…I’m not sure I want it to come…but it will and I will because I owe it to him.

13 Responses to Tomorrow
  1. Quiet Dreams
    August 18, 2010 | 5:45 pm

    What a painful memory that must be. Hugs, hugs.

  2. Kakunaa
    August 18, 2010 | 5:56 pm

    This must be so difficult for you…I hope that it brings some closure for you. HUGS

  3. Stacie
    August 18, 2010 | 5:57 pm

    Oh, Kristin. Sending love and strength your way. Hugs.

  4. Vicki
    August 18, 2010 | 8:25 pm

    (((Hugs))) sweetie! I’ll be thinking about you tomorrow. Wishing you the strength that you need to get through tomorrow.

  5. Lynn
    August 18, 2010 | 10:07 pm

    Such a difficult thing to have to remember! My thoughts are with you, hun, and your MIL. I hope this will help you all and will bring justice for your FIL.

    Let me know if I can help you with anything. I write medical appeal letters to insurance companies for a living and, while I know it’s not the same thing, if you need any help at all (not that I doubt your abilities!) I’ll gladly lend it.


  6. battynurse
    August 18, 2010 | 11:35 pm

    Wow. Sounds like tomorrow is going to be a hard day. My thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs to you all.

  7. Mrs. Gamgee
    August 19, 2010 | 12:26 am

    I hope that going through this process will not be in vain, and that it will not be too hard. I will be thinking of you and your MIL and praying tomorrow!

  8. Sheliza
    August 19, 2010 | 8:44 am

    Geez, I know everyone is going through a lot emotionally but I do hope you get some answers and closure about this ordeal.

  9. Another Dreamer
    August 19, 2010 | 10:44 am

    (*hugs*) How difficult. I will be thinking of you.

  10. Dave Hingsburger
    August 19, 2010 | 10:53 am

    That’s going to be one of the hardest things you will ever write. I hope that you take care of yourself as you prepare to confront a ‘system’ that is supposed to care but often doesn’t. Godspeed.

  11. Dora
    August 19, 2010 | 3:51 pm

    Oh, so hard. Thinking of you.

  12. Deb
    August 19, 2010 | 4:40 pm

    Sending peace and strength your way.

  13. Calliope
    August 20, 2010 | 1:03 pm

    I am so sorry that you guys have to relive something so painful. Thinking of you.

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